A: I believe that I can particularly understand Chinese men, they learn when they are very little from their own family model. For example, Chinese family, if it is democratic, that is the couple is always discussing, then he will learn this. But if it is violent, then he will learn it also. But men, I think, Professor Zhen said something very true, that is the little menial things, I won’t do, that is what my wife should do. This I think is the traditional Chinese man. It is still “man outside, woman inside” view. Many man thinks, if I do these menial tasks, then I am not manly anymore, right? Man should be tall and straight, can carry heavy loads. So he just said, he said “fixing electronics, heavy labor, that is mine”. These small light, so actually you can see the difference between man and woman.
Because I like to work with youth, I feel that there are several situations with house chores too. Some boys, they like to do house work and they sometimes go do it. Also, some boys, its because they love their new wife or girlfriend, so they would do it for her. But sometimes after the marriage becomes stable, man tends to be empty handed a lot. They just stand there, we call it , the Beijingnese calls it “hand in sleeve”. You do your chores, I can stand outside the kitchen door and talk to you. But I will have my had in my sleeves. A lot of people are like that. But in the beginning of their marriage, such as when he is professing love, he would do it. And I think it doesn’t change much with age. But sometimes realize, that they need this adjustment in their marriage, so he helps the wife to do more chores. But some people don’t’ realize this, they only take care of outside the home.
