B: I don’t really know then, because I am in Japan, in Japan, after they become a couple, this relationship would happen a lot, among Japanese students, but before I left the country, Chinese people don’t do it as much. But after I came back now, I think Chinese are much more open about it too.
A: Then this phenomenon, you think, how does it react with traditional Chinese morals.. Especially some traditional views about before marriage behavior? What do you think?
B: I don’t say that people shouldn’t have relationships before they are married, I don’t feel that way. It depends what the two people thinks. They should adjust themselves so to speak.
A: so you think parents don’t have the rights to control these things?
B: of course, choices about what kind of friends with parents, I mean parents, they always care about the kids, but I feel like you can’t just completely listen to your parents, like in the past, everything is arranged, marriage and things, but you shouldn’t not listen to your parents either, they definitely experienced and seen more things than we have. So we should absorb our parent’s suggestions.
B: the only difference between living together and marriage , is that living together don’t’ have any legal protections. Now the divorce rate is much higher also, so I believe that living together and marriage, then later separate, I don’t think there is too much difference. But if you have children, then it is not good. To have children before you are married is not good.
A: so around Shanghai, these kind of ideas have gained acceptance?